If your child is not listening and responding when he is asked to do something, you may need to change your tactics!
Are you sick of arguing and screaming and being frustrated because your child does not listen to you? Would you like to learn some tips that might help you gain a more cooperative family and more peaceful environment to live in? Then perhaps you would like to know why children misbehave in the first place and how you should react in order to gain some sense of order and peace in your family.
Why Children Misbehave
As a parent educator, I have seen many families in chaos, simply because they are not holding family meetings and involving the children in problem-solving. I have also seen families move from anger to admiration in a matter of days or hours. A child with disrespectful behavior can turn your home into a war zine where there is no Peace and serenity.
The Goals of Misbehavior
1. Attention- I want you to notice and serve me
2. Power-I belong when I am in control or being boss.
3. Revenge- I belong when I can hurt others as I am being hurt. I want to get even
4. Display of inadequacy- I give up, don't expect anything from me. I am helpless
What Do They Really Need?
They need parents who will parent and discipline them. The word discipline comes from the Greek word which means "to teach." Punishment is not teaching. Positive Discipline involves guidance and consistent effort on the part of the parents and other adults who care for your children.
Children need to know what is acceptable and what is not acceptable behavior. They need to know the boundaries that society expects them to adhere to. They need to be taught right from wrong.
Build Self Esteem and Confidence
A child's self esteem and confidence is formed very early and is created each day from words, actions and skills taught by the adults who are caregivers. Self esteem doesn't depend on getting everything you want, when you want it. Instead, it builds from overcoming minor obstacles and learning to accomplish small daily tasks. This confidence in learning how to handle your emotions,
responsibilities and environment is best taught and modeled by loving and caring parents.
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