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Procrastination: Time Management Skills

Procrastination: Time Management Skills

Many children (and adults) put off doing tasks because they are afraid the end product won’t be “perfect.” One of the gifts we give our families is the life skills to become an independent, contributing member of society. Those who follow through on promises and act with integrity can be trusted.

Lying: Why Kids (and Adults) Don’t Always Tell the Truth

Lying: Why Kids (and Adults) Don’t Always Tell the Truth

Why do children (and adults) lie? How do we teach them to tell the truth? One way is to not punish them when they do tell the truth and admit a mistake.  Trust is created by honesty. If there has been a breach in the trust and respect of your family, please go to www.DisciplineYesPunishNo.com for ways to re-establish trust in your family relationships.

My Child Won’t Listen and Doesn’t Follow Directions

My Child Won’t Listen and Doesn’t Follow Directions

If your child is not listening and responding when he is asked to do something, you may need to change your tactics! Some kids like to see how many times you tell them to do something before you lose control. To avoid a battle of wills, teach your child that doing what you ask is a means to her end–getting to do the activities she wants.

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Misbehavior: Discipline Yes, Punish No

 Misbehavior: Discipline Yes, Punish No

Why does your child misbehave? What is the difference between discipline and punishment? What is the missing part of getting them to do what you tell them to do? Here is an answer from Ask Auntie Artichoke, family relationship coach and author of over 20 books. 


There are three levels of intervention that can help any family; 

1. Articles, classes and books
2. A transforming program used with the family in weekly meetings
3. Therapy for situations where personal safety or an outside authority is called for

The worst thing you can do is nothing. Problems do not go away by themselves. Action is called for. Please try level one and level two. You may find the answer you are searching for.

You do an important work. For more information please go to  www.DisciplineYesPunishNo.com.

How to Listen: Skills to Enhance Your Relationships

How to Listen: Skills to Enhance Your Relationships

Did you hear what I said? Did you hear with your ears or your heart? Were you so eager to say your piece that you did not understand what I was telling you?

Is there a part of the puzzle that we are missing? Verbal language is the communication of information. Non-verbal language is the communication of relationships.

The Greedy Child: Helping Kids Learn to Share

The Greedy Child: Helping Kids Learn to Share

“I want this really bad.” Many children (and adults) have problems learning the difference between wants and needs. By keeping the idea of character and values as well as budgets and house rules in mind, we can help shift from a sense of entitlement to a sense of gratitude.

Instead of punishing your child for acting impatient and greedy, teach him to prioritize his needs. For more information on transforming your family, please see www.DisciplineYesPunishNo.com.

 You may also get a free eBook on words to say that will motivate positive action at www.UseEncouragingWords.com.

Family Meetings: Teach Leadership Skills

Family Meetings: Teach Leadership Skills

The family is the basic organization of civilization. Just as you would never run a business without a plan, team meetings, communication and goal setting, neither should families go without regular meetings.

If you want to change negative behavior and raise responsible young adults, please go to www.DisciplineYesPunishNo.com.  There are answers there for you.

Nurturing Relationships and Setting Boundaries

Nurturing Relationships and Setting Boundaries

Being aware of our boundaries and limits in crucial in having healthy relationships, both as children and adults.

A boundary or limit lets me know how far I can go with comfort in a relationship, either personal or professional. It lets me know where my psychological and physical space ends and yours begins. This knowledge of how far we can go with comfort is necessary for love, intimacy and trust.

It is necessary for all members of a relationship acknowledge the edges and recognize when they have stepped over the line

Our Boundaries are Invisible, but Always There

A good way to think of how healthy boundaries work is to relate them to cells in our bodies. The outer wall of a cell is semi permeable, which means it lets in those things which are beneficial and keeps out those that are not.

Healthy cells and people know who and what they are. A brain cell never gets confused and thinks it is a stomach cell. . It knows intuitively when to duplicate, when to expel waste and when it is hungry for supplements. It demonstrates intelligence by discriminating between nutrition and poison.

Healthy Boundaries Define Who We Are

Our boundaries mark who we are, what we stand for: our beliefs, standards, values, thoughts, feelings, choices, decisions and experiences. The key to establishing boundaries with other people is to know our inner self.

If we allow others to set, invade or consistently cross our boundaries, we are in essence saying we are not sure who and what we stand for. We are giving permission for others to set the standards of a relationship, without any regard for what we want or deserve.

A Healthy Core of Self-Knowledge

Speaking up for who we are and what we need in relationships keeps us from being co-dependent, abused or misunderstood. By letting others know in a firm but kind voice what our boundaries are and how we like to be treated will produce respect.

If the other person chooses not to honor your limits, then you have choices to make. You deserve to be treated in a respectful and non combative manner.

I urge you to be consistent in setting boundaries and honoring those of others in your circle of friends and family. When you know who you are and how you want to be treated, it will assist you in treating others in a respectful way.

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