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How to Discipline Without Damage

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How to Discipline Without Damage
The difference between discipline and punishment is the takeaway. One being disciplined learns not to repeat the action. One being punished learns not to be caught doing the action.

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Disciplining through peaceful methods models dignity, respect and kindness. These values will, in turn, be instilled in and modeled by your children. The key aspect of discipline is to teach, not punish. Through natural and logical consequences rather than punishment, your child will learn desirable behavior.

 

 

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How to Discipline Without Damage: Empowering Your Child’s Spirit, teaches one what it truly means to discipline.

How to Discipline Without Damage
The difference between discipline and punishment is the takeaway. One being disciplined learns not to repeat the action. One being punished learns not to be caught doing the action.

You can manage a problem or prevent it from occurring all together. Would you rather empty a bucket from underneath a dripping faucet or fix the leak? Choosing modes of correction is the prior, whereas disciplining is the latter.

Screaming and spanking are not teachers, but rather modes of correction (ineffective ones, at that). They don’t teach children to stop a behavior, just to get better at hiding it.

Disciplining through peaceful methods models dignity, respect and kindness. These values will, in turn, be instilled in and modeled by your children. The key aspect of discipline is to teach, not punish. Through natural and logical consequences rather than punishment, your child will learn desirable behavior.

In this book you will learn:
• The Mistakes You May Be Making in Modeling Behavior
• The Difference Between Outward and Inward Responsibility
• How to Help Children Be Problem Solvers
• How to Repair or Rebuild a Broken Boundary or Relationship
• And Much More

 

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Single Parent: Absent Parents & Left Behind Kids

Single Parent: Absent Parents & Left Behind Kids

“Why did my daddy leave?
Was it because I was a bad girl or he didn’t love us anymore?”

Explaining the absent parent is never easy, but it is necessary. For children, their primary fear is of abandonment and loss of parental love. There may be a number of reasons that the family is no longer intact, if it ever was, but the child is looking for reassurance that it is not their fault and that they will be cared for.

Children’s lives revolve around their family: 

The family unit is all they have ever known and to hear that a parent or caregiver is no longer going to be there is very traumatic and almost unbelievable. They will jump to a number of conclusions, most of them wrong and blaming themselves, in an effort to find answers and just cope. In an effort to make sense of the situation, they may become clingy to the caregiver and think “If he left, maybe you will too.”

Feelings of Abandonment and isolation:

No matter what other reactions children may demonstrate to the adults in their lives, almost all have a deep and pervasive sorrow and sadness about them. One of the best things you can do for your children is to allow them to express their grief. Prolonged crying and preoccupation with the lost relationship are normal responses. Parents and family frequently try to hide their own despair and disappointment from the children, but by talking with them about feelings and emotions, you can give them permission to open up and share.

Single parenting:

One out of every four American children lives in a single-parent home. While most single-parent homes are the result of divorce, many parents and grandparents are raising children alone for other reasons as well. Some may be alone due to the death of a spouse, military assignments, single parent adoption, incarceration, drug or alcohol abuse and a myriad of other reasons for a parent to be absent in the life of a child.

Put the children’s needs first:

As an adult it is your responsibility to care for the children, both physically and emotionally. Recognize that a long period of grief and mourning are natural. A preschooler may regress in such things as toilet training or begin to have nightmares or new fears. School age children may be showing signs of anger, guilt and sadness. You may see a drop in school grades and activities. Teenagers may assume they will be forced into an adult role or not have money enough for his needs. No matter what the age, some children feel responsible for the absent parent and harbor dreams about making it all right again. If you can not work out problems by open communication and cooperation, do not hesitate to get professional help. Their self-esteem and future happiness may depend on it.

 

Raising Kids on a Budget: Involve the Whole Family to Cut Expenses

Raising Kids on a Budget:
Involve the Whole Family to Cut Expenses

If your bills and expenses equals more than your income, you are headed for trouble and must take steps immediately to get back on track. There must be enough coming in your household to cover what is going out in expenses. If there is a big difference between the two, then you may be headed for trouble. The sooner you can find solutions as a family, the faster you can be in a position to balance your budget.

There are only two ways to get more money:

1) Increase your income or the expendable ability to trade or barter for what you need
2) Decrease your outgo and cut out all unnecessary expenditures and budget very carefully.

Involve the Whole Family

When all the members of the family are told the truth about the financial situation, they will understand that it will take the effort of everyone to pitch in and help with expenses. It is important to get their “ownership” of the problem and a commitment to cutting back until the finances improve.

Part Time Job Saving Money

Does your family need a little less month or a little more money? Then consider a part time job saving money. That’s right, by involving the entire family in a few hours planning, budgeting and goal setting; you can save as much as you would working another part time job. Then as a family, you can decide what you will be able to do with the money you save by making wisefinancial decisions.

Here are some ideas to start your family thinking;

B – Buy what you need, not what you want.
U – Use your talents and skills to trade services.
D – Don’t ever spend money in anticipation of earning it.
G – Garage sales, consignment shops to find bargains.
E – Eat at home or make it at home and take it with you.
T – Track your spending so you will have money to track.
S – Simplify your life. Get rid of all the stuff you thought you wanted but don’t really need.

Spend twice as much time and half as much money on your child’s entertainment and you will both be happier.

A relaxed and present parent is the best thing in a child’s life. Anyone can afford the priceless gift of a walk in the park or a bedtime snuggle. This is a time for everyone to work together and use our creative minds to spend less and have more of a quality life that does not depend on things and expensive toys and clothes.

So, if your family is having a difficult time communicating and would like more in depth assistance, I strongly encourage you to check out this proven program that will transform your family life.

 

Discipline versus Punish: Guide or Force Acceptable Behavior?

Discipline versus Punish: Guide or Force Acceptable Behavior?


Many parents and teachers think that discipline and punishment are one and the same. They feel that as the “Big Guys” with the power, they can force acceptable behavior with children.

The word discipline comes from the word disciple; a leader, teacher or guide. It means modeling and guiding behavior and attitude with respect and kindness rather than using force. Punish has a much harsher meaning and is usually associated with domination or breaking the spirit of a child.

Discipline vs Punish

Parents who use punishment as a means of control usually have very high standardss and expectations. They seldom offer warm, caring support and few explanations of their rules and are pretty unbending in their rigid standards. Their children often learn that violence, both verbal and physical, is an acceptable way to control others, even if it is short term. They grow up to be bullies and demanding adults who have never gathered interpersonal skills for relationships, both personal and professional.

Loving, Kind and Firm Discipline Teaches Life Skills

Loving and kind parents who discipline and teach with clearly defined rules, limits and boundaries raise caring and cooperative children. They take the time to train and guide the family to understand the limits of society. They also make an effort to consistently spend time and energy in fostering confidence and self esteem in all members of the family.

Loving parents are flexible enough to listen if a rule or boundary has been violated, but are sure enough of their own inner strength to teach the life lesson. Their love and guidance is not tied to accomplishments, behavior or tasks. It is an unconditional commitment to discipline vs punish and to guide rather than force acceptable behavior.

Respect is a two way street and parents who want children to respect them, will model respectful behavior.

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10 Ways for a Dad to Say “I Love You” to His Children when He is Away from Them

10 Ways for a Dad to Say “I Love You”
to His Children when He is Away from Them


Children need fathers. No matter how old the child is or how bad the relationship has been in the past.  If you, as a father, have relinquished the reins of guidance because of absence you need to step back into the picture.  Many men are uncomfortable mentoring, guiding, teaching and yes, loving their own children.  they assume that the step-dad, teacher or coach will step in to teach their sons the ways of male-dom.

Being a Dad is a sacred calling and the minute your sperm connected with the egg, you were committed to being responsible.  You also have a calling to support and encourage not only your children, but those in the community, to grow and develop their talents and abilities.

Absent-Physically, Emotionally and Spiritually?

In my work as a parent educator, I see many men who are confused about how to show love.  Many are absent in the lives of their children and want to connect but don’t know how.  Some feel that because they left the child or family and moved on, then so did they.  No, the child has a hole in their heart for the love of a Dad and needs to know you care. 

The child may rebuff your efforts or act as if they did not care, but they do.  They need you to validate them as important people.  Here are some simple ways to connect and say I love you when you are not in their lives daily.

  1. Start calling them once a week. If you say you will call on Thursday night, then do it.  Model how mature people keep their promises.
  2. Drop a card in the mail. It can say “thinking of you.”
  3. Instead of writing a letter, if that is hard for you, make a recording of you telling a story.
  4. Send a gift package of little things they enjoy. What is their favorite kind of gum, candy, magazine? Ask them, then send them a love pack.
  5. Have a copy made of a photo of them and write on the back why you miss them. In fact make copies of a lot of photos and send to them. They will enjoy seeing them again.
  6. Make a list of 10 things you admire about them.
  7. Make a list of 10 questions you have always wondered about them and ask them to send the completed list back to you.
  8. Tell them about your feelings when they were born. Everyone loves to hear the story of their birth.
  9. Send them flowers or a balloon bouquet at school.
  10. Say the words “I love you and I will always love you.” to them.       Parents assume that the child knows they are loved because there is food on the table and a roof over their heads.  But, children need to be told that the love is unconditional and never  ending.

Begin Today To Say I Love You

Begin today to speak encouraging words to the children in your circle of influence.  If you do not know the words to say, then download my free book that will give you many examples of words and phrases to use It is a gift to you as you assume your calling as a Father and tell your children that you love them.

You are also invited to visit my blog for answers and suggestions which will enhance your relationships. You will also find a full listing of free tele-classes and radio shows held each Thursday just for you.

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What is an Auntie? Is it Different than an Aunt?

What is an Auntie? Is it Different than an Aunt?

Do you have an Auntie? I hope so because everybody deserves to have someone in their lives who will encourage, support and think they are wonderful.

Many people have asked me about my title of Auntie Artichoke. Whose aunt am I? Do I have many nieces and nephews and they call me Auntie Artichoke? Actually, I do have relatives, but the title of Auntie has nothing to do with blood lines but rather spiritual connections.

It is an honorary title that is given to a woman who has a great influence in the life of others. This title implies strength and an ability to see the best and encourage good choices. In many cultures, including Hawaiian and Native American, wise, kind and guiding mentors and teachers are called Auntie and Uncle as a sign of respect and affection.

The underlying message of an Auntie is love and acceptance. As an Auntie, I am able to share wisdom and insight without the “shoulds” and “should nots” parents like to enforce. There is no shame, blame and criticism.

Aunties can listen without judgment, share without restrictions and love unconditionally.

I am honored to be called Auntie and to use the Artichoke as a symbol of the work I do. The artichoke is a strange food and many have never tried it because they were not sure what to expect. It certainly looks funny.

But the artichoke is very much like the families I work with across the world who are just like yours and mine.

We are all closed off and held tight at first glance. Some of us have prickly ends and don’t want to be opened or examined too closely. The only way to open an artichoke and a family member is with patience and warmth.

Until the artichoke has time to cook, the leaves won’t open and reveal the true treasure-which is the heart. As you pull apart the leaves, you will find them increasingly delicious and meaty. When you have spent the time and effort to unfold the heart of either the artichoke or person, you will find the heart.

After you finish peeling and eating an artichoke or visiting with an Auntie, you will see there is much more there than meets the eye. There are hidden depths waiting to be discovered.

My wish for each of you is to find an Auntie or Uncle who will love you unconditionally and assist you on this journey called life. My second wish for you is that you BE an Auntie or Uncle and that you mentor and guide others. Help them to find their true hearts.