By Judy H. Wright
“A positive identity hinges on positive life experiences.” – Judy H. Wright
If those positive experiences can take place in the relative safety and security of the home then so much the better. The more successes a child has, the better he feels about himself and his place in the world. When we teach our children to work, the whole family comes out a winner. The child feels greater self-esteem, independence and sense of belonging. The parents feel relieved of some of the workload, less manipulated and more successful is seeing their child develop life skills.
“I get to unload the silverware now, but when I am 4 years old, and then I get to feed the dog. You have to be pretty responsible when you feed the dog, because they can’t just get cereal if they are hungry.” – Ridge, age 3
- Are your children responsible for chores?
- Do they have to be reminded again and again to take the garbage out?
- Do you have to reprimand them when they forget?
- Are they resourceful in solving problems?
- Do they really know how to clean the living room or are they just rearranging the dust?
- Are your expectations reasonable?
- How about recruiting other family members to keep the house and life running smoothly?
- Does your family rotate chores so every one has an opportunity to learn life skills?
- What is the difference between a reward and a bribe?
Wow! There “R” a lot of questions and what you really want is answers or solutions? Right?
The most important R is Relationships and the good feelings that come to a family when everyone contributes in the sweat and the sweet. Contrary to what the kids may think, this is really about teaching life skills and team work. Those children who help at home do better in school, music and sports. The ones who have learned to respect people and property are assured of always having a job in the world of work.
“Thanks for teaching us how to see things that have to be done and just doing them. As a manager I am astounded by how many people in the workplace wait to be told what to do.” – Our adult daughter
Each family is unique in their skills, levels of frustration and expectations. So you will want to use these ideas as springboards for conversations at your house. However, every family is similar in that we all want peace, security, acceptance and acknowledgement of effort.
“I am glad you told us to keep starting over with chores for the kids. It would be so much easier to just do it myself. I have to remind myself that I am training them for the future, not just for today.” – Maris, mother of two boys
You will be glad that you received this assistance in raising resilient, reliable, respectful and resourceful kids. Some day at a family reunion, as they review their childhoods, they will tell you thanks for teaching them to work at home. I know, because our kids have.
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Daily Duties Chore Chart
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